Category Archives: Rants

Just The Way You Are — Take The Time!

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I have shared before how special this song is to me. I made the last chorus of this song a ringer for Lucenda’s phone. Only when I called her phone, it would play. I would leave notes all over the place telling Lucenda how beautiful she was, how much I loved her, how special she was, how important she was. When this song came out, it was … in essence … a culmination of the years of notes I had left for her (but sung by someone with talent).

Today, I was listening to it again as I was standing in my kitchen. I thought of something different this time. I knew that I needed to type these thoughts for others to see.

We do not know when our time on this earth will end. We do not know if today is our last chance to BE a light to someone.

Take the time to find the positives. Take the time to be encouraging. Take the time to be a friend. Take the time to be a helper. Take the time to be a listener. Take the time to BE POSITIVE. Take the time to be SELFLESS.

Your words could very well be the last words someone may ever hear on this earth. Choose wisely what you say.

The Multi-Verse Flood of Memories and Thoughts

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Every day, there is “something” that triggers a memory. A memory triggers the “multi-verse” flood of memories and trains of thought. With the memories and thoughts there is the void. The void where someone does not physically occupy any longer. The thoughts of the forced new path now traveled. The heart is flooded with joyful memories, painful memories, the horrid pain of being shattered, the ache of the void. The “multi-verse” of emotions and thoughts come all at once, in a single moment. Grief does not end. Grief does not “go away in time.” Grief is like a new part of your body that you live your life with.

If you do not know what to say to someone who has experienced tremendous grief … Don’t say anything. Being a supporter, helper, FRIEND, is far more than “words“. It is also far more than “deeds“. Being a support includes “just being” there for someone ……..

Sit by the fire. Sip something. Go for a walk with. Go sightseeing with. Watch a movie with. Have dinner with. Avoid getting arrested with (grins). NEVER EVER accuse someone of being WEAK for grieving. NEVER EVER tell someone to “suck it up” when they are grieving. Likewise, do NOT facilitate keeping someone grieving. Help them see they have purpose and value and worth!

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