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And they lived happily ever after …

“He sits on a park bench while the rain pours down. He stares blankly at the emptiness of the darkness before him. The rain serves as the tears he is to numb to shed. The rain flows like blood from the open wound in his chest. His heart has been ripped from his chest, crushed beyond recognition, and shoved back into the gaping hole with no delicacy.
The rain – freezing rain covers him … drowning him … shrouding him in despair. He is too numb to notice. Life has been taken from him… joy yanked from his life… happiness blotted out of his sight. His hands hang down … open … weak. He could not hold on. He could not protect. He could not save. He could not be the man she needed him to be.
If this was all, it was still too much. He still must tell the boy. He has to tell his son. He must tell his son his mother is dead.
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No, it did not rain that night. No, there was no park bench. There was only a hospital parking lot curb. It was a cold October night. The feelings, the pain, the despair was very real. There are no words that could adequately express the feelings of that night. There is no way to convey the feeling deep inside my chest. Yes, my chest. Yes, I am “that man”. I am the husband, the father of these words.
That night, I did two of the most difficult things of my life. I had to let go of my dear sweet, wonderful wife. I then had to tell our amazing son she was gone.”

This is an excerpt from a previous post of me describing the night my wife died. That night was over 6 years ago. The night … the feelings … the events … all still vivid to me.

Somewhere along the way in our history, perceptions became skewed about marriage. Far too many view marriage as “the goal”, “the finish line”. Once we reach this point, life is “happily ever after”.

For those whose calling is to be married, life BEFORE marriage is “preparation” for the journey. Becoming one flesh is the beginning of the journey. Marriage is where the new life begins as the two single souls join to become a new unit … and new “entity”. The married couple is a new body. Just like a body has different parts performing different functions, Husbands and Wives, each contribute their unique skills and talents to the new entity. The married couple must work together to function. Most importantly, the entity needs to have a heart to survive. That heart, is GOD.

The body needs food. The body needs activity. The body needs water. The body needs sunlight.
The LIVING WORD gives life to our spiritual body. Doing the work GOD has for us … keeps us active … strengthens us. The LIVING WATER of Christ sustains us. Living in The Light .. the SON Light is crucial to our growth.

Ponder on these things …

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